Tool: Ripples of Loss

This was such great tool for me. To actually sit down and chart the circles of grief and loss and the aftermath was quite revealing, especially when I was finished and had this whole sort of “map” in front of me that I could actually look at and make sense of in an almost objective way, if that makes sense...thank you for these teachings 🙏🏻♥️

Thank you for sharing this Michelle.  My experience with it was interesting. As I was thinking about this ripple effect, I remembered as a child how I enjoyed throwing a rock high in the air over some water, hearing it land with a plop and watching the ripples travel away from the center until I couldn't see them anymore.  Sometimes I'd do this with a handful of pebbles and the cascading sound was pretty cool. The ripples colliding created a little storm of chaotic water.  I made a connection to that chaotic water of my playful childhood, as I realized that the confused, buffeted, unpredictable sense that I carry with me so often these days reflects the nature of my grieving process now, as I dance with not only my most recent loss but a lifetime of losses which I am only now choosing to unpack and move through. What I also remember from my play; even those multiple ripples from multiple pebbles at once moved on, and smoother water returned.